內容簡介 Everyone of us struggle with faulty ways of thinking that damage our emotional health, relationships with others, and spiritual growth and development. One of the most toxic and destructive ways we view reality is to think in terms of how things should or shouldn't be, something that keeps us from accepting the difficult things that come our way and coping with them properly. This book examines twenty of the most toxic "shoulds" we suffer from and how to overcome them so that our lives can flourish.Endorsement: Who among us doesn't wrestle with toxic guilt? Who has never been ravaged by unhealthy self-punishment? Who hasn't experienced the damage of unwavering shame? Well, Chris Thurman has done it again! In this eye-opening book, he offers the antidote to self-condemnation, an elixir guaranteed to induce better emotional health, and the secret balm for more grace and compassion - for you and those around you. Don't miss out on this life-changing message.-Les Parrott, Ph.D.#1 New York Times bestselling author of Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts.About the Author: Dr. Chris Thurman is a psychologist, author, and public speaker. He has a doctorate in counseling psychology from the University of Texas, and has been in private practice for over thirty years. Chris has authored numerous books, including the bestseller The Lies We Believe (over 250,000 in print) and conducted hundreds of seminars for churches and corporations around the country.Chris and his wife, Holly, have been married for forty years and have three grown children and three adorable grandchildren. In his spare time, Chris loves to play golf, follow his beloved Texas Longhorns, and, most importantly, teach others how knowing the truth can set them free to live the abundant life.For more information concerning Dr. Thurman's seminars, please contact him at his website, drchristhurman.com.