You're the Only One I Can Tell: Inside the Language of Women's Friendships

華盛頓郵報注目新書！女人心海底針，這句話是所有人都熟知的一句話，不僅適用於情侶間相處，甚至女性間的友誼都適用，但其實只要懂得女性話中邏輯，就可以破解看似迷宮的女人心！紐約時報暢銷作家、人際關係專家黛博拉‧坦南訪問了八十位女性，年紀從九歲到九十歲都有，住在不同地方、有不同的生活背景，她將訪談內容整理成這本書，來告訴所有女性如何破解話中話。其中坦南會說明朋友間表達同情、給予建議、或者靜靜聆聽的強大力量從何而來、女性如何以談話來溝通，或者暗中較勁、為何女性間的友誼總是被「害怕被孤立」所掌控。有這些資訊就可以讓我們更了解朋友陪伴的重要性，以及我們如何可以讓彼此間的關係更好！黛博拉．坦南是美國知名人際關係專家，曾出版數本暢銷著作，最擅長以風趣幽默卻又充滿智慧的方式來向讀者剖析人際關係，現為美國最受歡迎的人際關係溝通師之一。







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This warm, wise exploration of female friendship from the #1 New York Times bestselling author of You Just Don’t Understand will help women lean into these powerful relationships.A WASHINGTON POST NOTABLE BOOKBest friend, old friend, good friend, bff, college roommate, neighbor, workplace confidante: Women’s friendships are a lifeline in times of trouble and a support system for daily life. A friend can be like a sister, daughter, mother, mentor, therapist, or confessor—or she can be all of these at once. She’s seen you at your worst and celebrates you at your best. Figuring out what it means to be friends is, in the end, no less than figuring out how we connect to other people.In this illuminating and validating new book, #1 New York Times bestselling author Deborah Tannen deconstructs the ways women friends talk and how those ways can bring friends closer or pull them apart. From casual chatting to intimate confiding, from talking about problems to telling what you had for dinner, Tannen uncovers the patterns of communication and miscommunication that affect friendships at different points in our lives. She shows how even the best of friends—with the best intentions—can say the wrong thing, and how words can repair the damage done by words. Through Tannen’s signature insight, humor, and ability to present pitch-perfect real-life dialogue, readers will see themselves and their friendships on every page. The book explains●the power of women friends who show empathy, give advice—or just listen●how women use talk to connect to friends—and to subtly compete●how “Fear of Being Left Out” and “Fear of Getting Kicked Out” can haunt women’s friendships●how social media is reshaping communication and relationshipsDrawing on interviews with eighty women of diverse backgrounds, ranging in age from nine to ninety-seven, You’re the Only One I Can Tell gets to the heart of women’s friendships—how they work or fail, how they help or hurt, and how we can make them better.“Celebrates friendship in its frustrations and its rewards and, above all, its wonderful complexity.”—The Atlantic“At a time when the messages we give and get have so many more ways to be misconstrued and potentially damaging, a book that takes apart our language becomes almost vital to our survival as friends.”—The Washington Post