How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen

《紐約時報》暢銷書 • 來自《品格之路》、《第二座山》作者的大衛 布魯克斯，一本實用、真誠的指南，教您掌握真正了解他人、在家庭、職場和生活中培養更深層連結的藝術。

「這不只是一本更好的對話指南，它是通往一種更具連結性、更人性化生活方式的藍圖。對於任何希望加深人際關係、拓寬視野的人來說，這是必讀之作。」— 比爾 蓋茲，《蓋茲筆記》（夏季閱讀推薦）

正如大衛 布魯克斯所觀察到的：「有一項技能是任何健康個體、家庭、學校、社區組織或社會的核心：能夠深入看見另一個人，並讓對方感覺到被看見—準確地了解他人，讓他們感受到被重視、被傾聽和被理解。」

然而，我們周遭卻充滿了感覺自己隱形、未被看見、被誤解的人。《如何真正認識一個人》一書中，布魯克斯著手幫助我們做得更好，提出了幾個關鍵問題：如果你想了解一個人，應該投以何種注意力？應該進行什麼樣的對話？應該關注對方故事的哪些部分？

布魯克斯憑藉他標誌性的好奇心和個人成長的決心，汲取了心理學、神經科學，以及戲劇、哲學、歷史和教育等領域的知識，提出了一種令人感到親切、充滿希望且全面的人類連結方法。《如何真正認識一個人》幫助讀者對他人變得更具同理心和體貼，並從被看見的過程中找到喜悅。同時，它為一個被分裂、敵意和誤解所困擾的社會提供了可能的補救之道。

布魯克斯認為，看見另一個人的行為是具有深遠意義的創造性：我們如何才能看著某人的眼睛，看見他們身上的宏大之處，並因此反過來，看見我們自己身上更大的可能性？ 《如何真正認識一個人》是為所有尋求連結、渴望被理解的人而寫。

NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • A practical, heartfelt guide to the art of truly knowing another person and fostering deeper connections at home, at work, and throughout our lives—from the author of The Road to Character and The Second Mountain

“More than a guide to better conversations, it’s a blueprint for a more connected and humane way of living. It’s a must-read for anyone looking to deepen their relationships and broaden their perspectives.”—Bill Gates, GatesNotes (Summer Reading Pick)

As David Brooks observes, “There is one skill that lies at the heart of any healthy person, family, school, community organization, or society: the ability to see someone else deeply and make them feel seen—to accurately know another person, to let them feel valued, heard, and understood.”

And yet all around are people who feel invisible, unseen, misunderstood. In How to Know a Person, Brooks sets out to help us do better, posing essential questions: If you want to know a person, what kind of attention should you cast on them? What kind of conversations should you have? What parts of a person’s story should you pay attention to?

Driven by his trademark sense of curiosity and determination to grow as a person, Brooks draws from the fields of psychology and neuroscience and the worlds of theater, philosophy, history, and education to present a welcoming, hopeful, integrated approach to human connection. How to Know a Person helps readers become more understanding and considerate toward others, and to find the joy that comes from being seen. Along the way it offers a possible remedy for a society that is riven by fragmentation, hostility, and misperception.

The act of seeing another person, Brooks argues, is profoundly creative: How can we look somebody in the eye and see something large in them and, in turn, see something larger in ourselves? How to Know a Person is for anyone searching for connection, and yearning to be understood.