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The Power of Parting: Finding Peace and Freedom Through Family Estrangement

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內容簡介 【誠品選書】打破迷思遠離有毒至親，終止虐待循環重啟人生作者忍受母親長達數十年的身心虐待，不管怎麼設立界線都無效，最終他做出激進決定：與母親切斷關係。儘管仍感到罪咎與悲傷，但與施虐者分開讓他解脫，迎來自由、自信，甚至喜悅的人生。結合研究與親身經歷，作者提出疏遠有毒親人是療癒家庭虐待的有效方法，鼓勵讀者設立界線、擺脫罪咎，勇敢走向自由與自我重建。Brave and groundbreaking' - Lori Gottlieb, psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone.A myth-shattering, inspiring book that combines research and memoir to explore the growing phenomenon of estrangement from toxic relatives – showing it not as a tragedy, but as an empowering and effective solution to the heartbreak of family abuse.After decades of enduring his mother’s physical and psychological torment and years of trying in vain to set boundaries, Eamon Dolan took a radical step: he cut his mother out of his life. No more phone calls, no more visits, no more contact. Parting with his abuser gave him immediate relief and set him on a path toward freedom, confidence and joy like none he had ever felt before.In The Power of Parting, Dolan has written the book he wishes he’d had when he was struggling to free himself from his mother’s abuse. In the process, he discovered how widespread estrangement really is. One in five UK families will be affected by estrangement, and at least 27 percent of Americans are estranged from a parent, sibling or other family member. Estrangement, Dolan realized, should be understood and embraced, not shrouded in shame.Drawing on his own suffering and healing, as well as experts’ advice and the testimony of other courageous survivors, Dolan first explains why abuse harms us in childhood and beyond, and why limiting or eliminating contact might be our best possible choice. He then takes us through the steps of a successful, positive estrangement: how to take crucial time for yourself; how to set rules for your abuser and – if they can’t or won’t respect your limits – how to end a toxic relationship. He also offers counsel on how to ease the guilt and grief that often accompany parting, and how to break the cycle of abuse.With a convincing blend of clarity and empathy, Dolan encourages others to do what he ultimately did for himself: determine whether the people in your life treat you with the care and concern you deserve – and part ways with them if they don’t.

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作者介紹 Eamon DolanEamon Dolan has worked as an editor at HarperCollins, Houghton Mifflin Harcourt, and Penguin Press. He is currently Vice President & Executive Editor at Simon & Schuster. He’s also a professional photographer whose work has been shown at the International Center of Photography and elsewhere. He lives in Brooklyn, New York.

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最佳賣點 : A myth-shattering, inspiring book that combines research and memoir to explore the growing phenomenon of estrangement from toxic relatives – showing