Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It

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密西根大學心理學者克羅斯結合行為研究與實際案例，闡明內心的「負面聲音」有損健康、社交，甚至可能導致身心崩潰。他建議讀者利用自我對話鍛鍊心智建立強大自我。

「冷靜，我可以的。」「完蛋了，我一定會搞砸！」「第一次做總是比較難，下次一定會更好！」「算了，反正也沒人在意，我認真幹嘛。」「沒關係，我盡力就好！」「為什麼別人都可以，我就是做不到？」「不要想有的沒的，專心！」「放棄吧，反正大家也都在等看笑話。」

這些話，一定也在你腦中出現過，許多許多次。
你可能沒注意到，每天，我們對話最頻繁的對象，就是自己！
我們在心裡用超快的語速，重播昨晚的大吵、焦慮談判的下一步、預演明天的報告。
這個在我們腦中不斷來回的自我對話，誰也聽不見看不到，卻牢牢的主宰我們的思緒，深深影響我們的表現、人際關係與生活品質。

自我對話，可以是我們的最佳教練，讓我們有超水準演出；
但也可能是讓人崩潰的惡魔，打趴自信、拖垮表現。

作者伊森‧克洛斯（Ethan Kross）博士是密西根大學情緒與自制力實驗室主持人，他發現自我對話是重要大腦功能，影響記憶力、注意力，甚至是我們的社交能力。
但自我對話也有不好的一面，克洛斯稱為「小對話」（chatter），我們常常被內心的小聲音折磨，陷入負面情緒的深淵，不僅傷害健康，更會磨損人際關係。

人生中最重要的對話，就是我們與自己說的話。
掌握克服小對話的有效工具，不再被負面情緒綁架！

在本書中，作者結合科學研究與真實案例，從改變自己的心理鍛鍊，到改善關係的實際做法，幫助我們克服小對話，發揮最佳實力。你可以學到：
․壓力超大時，如何靠自我對話集中注意力？
․如何用抽離式自我對話取代以「我」為中心的對話，轉換觀點與情緒。
․如何有建設性地幫助別人克服小對話，而不會共同掉入負面情緒的陷阱？
․能幫助孩子克服小對話、又不會傷到孩子自尊的好用方法。
․了解環境對小對話的影響，打造最能恢復情緒、充電注意力的生活環境。
․職業選手的賽前儀式真的有用？如何自己設計專屬儀式，緩解緊張焦慮。

本中文書介出自《強大內心的自我對話習慣》天下雜誌股份有限公司出版


NATIONAL BESTSELLER • An award-winning psychologist reveals the hidden power of our inner voice and shows how to harness it to combat anxiety, improve physical and mental health, and deepen our relationships with others.

LONGLISTED FOR THE PORCHLIGHT BUSINESS BOOK AWARD • “A masterpiece.”—Angela Duckworth, bestselling author of Grit • Malcolm Gladwell, Susan Cain, Adam Grant, and Daniel H. Pink’s Next Big Idea Club Winter 2021 Winning Selection

One of the best new books of the year—The Washington Post, BBC, USA Today, CNN Underscored, Shape, Behavioral Scientist, PopSugar • Kirkus Reviews, Publishers Weekly, and Shelf Awareness starred reviews

Tell a stranger that you talk to yourself, and you’re likely to get written off as eccentric. But the truth is that we all have a voice in our head. When we talk to ourselves, we often hope to tap into our inner coach but find our inner critic instead. When we’re facing a tough task, our inner coach can buoy us up: Focus—you can do this. But, just as often, our inner critic sinks us entirely: I’m going to fail. They’ll all laugh at me. What’s the use?

In Chatter, acclaimed psychologist Ethan Kross explores the silent conversations we have with ourselves. Interweaving groundbreaking behavioral and brain research from his own lab with real-world case studies—from a pitcher who forgets how to pitch, to a Harvard undergrad negotiating her double life as a spy—Kross explains how these conversations shape our lives, work, and relationships. He warns that giving in to negative and disorienting self-talk—what he calls “chatter”—can tank our health, sink our moods, strain our social connections, and cause us to fold under pressure.

But the good news is that we’re already equipped with the tools we need to make our inner voice work in our favor. These tools are often hidden in plain sight—in the words we use to think about ourselves, the technologies we embrace, the diaries we keep in our drawers, the conversations we have with our loved ones, and the cultures we create in our schools and workplaces.

Brilliantly argued, expertly researched, and filled with compelling stories, Chatter gives us the power to change the most important conversation we have each day: the one we have with ourselves.