內容簡介
內容簡介 給父母的”不插手”指南，培養出懂得獨立思考與團隊合作的孩子，讓他們沒有壓力且更快樂、更聰明。父母總是想把最好的給孩子，但常常在同時也把社會壓力加諸在他們身上，過度管理他們在生活上的種種細節，使他們招架不住，甚至失去動機，更可怕的是，這有可能導致他們像青少年或成人一樣的心理健康問題。如何避免此種情形發生？本書的兩位作者，分別是臨床神經心理學家與一所精英家教仲介的創辦人，他們曾經幫助過數千名碰到這類問題的孩子們。根據兩人加起來超過60年的經驗，他們發現最好的解壓劑就是讓孩子們掌握更多自己的生活。在這本打破窠臼的書中，他們告訴為人父母者，如何主動地幫助孩子塑造一個復原力強大、更具適應力、有更高抗壓力且隨時可以接受新挑戰的大腦。結合了先進的腦科學，以及行為治療的最新發現，還有來自數千名兒童的個案研究，作者告訴父母，把孩子安置在真正通往成功道路上的各種技巧：●減輕孩子的壓力與焦慮●培養獨立思考的能力●找出他們的內在動機●完全開發他們的潛能●將反抗轉化為決心●馴服有造反傾向的孩子Published in the U.S. as The Self-Driven ChildA hands-off parenting guide to nurture independent thinking and collaboration for happier, smarter and stress-free kids.'Sometimes the most helpful thing we can do as parents is to parent our children a little less. This humane, thoughtful book turns the latest brain science into valuable practical advice for parents on how to pull back, when to engage and when to let go. Read it. Your children will thank you.' Paul Tough, New York Times bestselling author of How Children SucceedAs parents we all want the best for our child, but so often we give in to societal pressures which can result in us over-managing every aspect of their lives leaving them overwhelmed, over-scheduled and lacking motivation. This can terrifyingly lead to mental health problems as adolescents and adults. How can we prevent this happening to our child?Over their combined sixty years of practice, William Stixrud, a clinical neuropsychologist, and Ned Johnson, the founder of an elite tutoring agency, have worked with thousands of children all facing this problem. Together they discovered that the best antidote to stress is to give kids more of a sense of control over their lives. In this ground-breaking book they reveal how you can actively help your child to sculpt a brain that is resilient, stress-proof and ready to take on new challenges.The Thriving Child offers a combination of cutting-edge brain science, the latest discoveries in behavioural therapy, and case studies drawn from the thousands of kids and teens Bill and Ned have helped over the years. They will teach you how to set your child on the real road to success and share their successful techniques to show you the best ways of helping your child to:· Reduce their stress and anxiety· Foster independent thinking· Find their internal motivation· Achieve their full potential· Transform defiance into decision making· Tame rebellious tendenciesThe Thriving Child is essential reading for every parent and demonstrates precisely how nurturing independent thinking, and collaborating with your child rather than micro-managing them, will lead to happier, smarter and stress-free kids.'This serious and probing look at how to give our children the right kinds of independence shows us how much power we have to ensure they can function optimally. It is a book about how to make our children more meaningfully independent, and to set ourselves free in the process.' Andrew Solomon, author of Far from the Tree'Compelling, revolutionary, and wise, The Thriving Child empowers parents with the courage, the tools, and the mindset to reduce toxic stress, and to foster our child's capacity for resilience, success, and optimal development. Its message-that we should trust kids to have more control over their own lives-is one every parent needs to hear.' Tina Payne Bryson, PhD, co-author of The Whole Brain Child and The Yes Brain
