Widower to Widower: Surviving the End of Your Most Important Relationship

On my website (fredcolby.com/media) for you can see what 29 readers say about my book in addition to the reviews posted on Amazon. The following are pulled from the dozens of testimonies and reviews there: "...if you have lost your wife this is a must read book. I still go back and read it whenever I get down and it helps... it is the best buy I ever made.""Great book! The sooner a widower reads it after losing his wife the better.""The book is well worth a read. It is honest and no holds barred."Widowers can heal and enjoy life again! You are not going crazy. If you confront your grief you can heal while still loving, honoring, and remembering your wife.I wrote my book in order to help my fellow widowers to survive this hell-on-earth experience. After losing your life partner, there are moments, many of them in fact, when you may doubt your very sanity. For most of us, that triggers the "flight or fight" reaction. If you fight (confront) it, your chances of coming through this intact are much improved. If you try to run away from it, you may only be delaying the inevitable grieving process.The greatest fear I had during the earliest stages of my grief was that I was going crazy, was losing all control over my thoughts, and that I might make decisions harming me, my family and my friends. That included suicidal thoughts. This scared the hell out of me and I became desperate to find answers, so I could avoid making bad life choices. I quickly found those answers would be hard to find, and that resources for widowers were minimal and often of dubious value.This book is my response to frustration I experienced during this search. I have done my best to compile the most vital information I could find on the widower experience into this one book, so the reader does not have to search as many sources for answers as I had to do. I also wanted to include many of the critical issues that you will not find addressed in other publications. What I wrote here can often be raw and brutal at times, much like the grieving process itself.I spoke with other widowers to confirm that mine was not a unique journey but was in fact similar in many respects to their journey as well. The entry into grief is intense and harsh, and I could not see how I could write this book without being totally honest about the experience.I am the expert only on my own experience. It is important to note that each widower's experience is unique. There will be common threads and shared experiences, but each must find their own path. We must learn from each other, to realize that we are not going crazy, and to know that we can survive this experience.