Option B Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy

面對人生無法避免的失去與傷痛我們仍可以鍛鍊韌性，重新發現幸福紐約時報暢銷榜Top 1亞馬遜2017年度好書／分類暢榜Top 1Facebook臉書營運長雪柔．桑德伯格Sheryl Sandberg與華頓商學院教授亞當．格蘭特Adam Grant跨界鉅作紐約時報、華爾街日報、金融時報、時代雜誌、經濟學人、紐約客、People雜誌、富比士雜誌、哈佛商業評論、赫芬頓郵報等重量級國際媒體一致關注報導CNN、CBS、ABC、NPR、歐普拉、Ellen秀我們都會面對失去，失去工作、情感、家庭、健康、甚至失去生命。悲劇或挫敗，總會發生。問題不是何時發生，而是我們都該學會如何面對。Facebook營運長、《時代》雜誌最有影響力人物雪柔‧桑德伯格有著眾人嚮往的A+人生，完美的履歷、令人羨慕的工作、親愛的老公與孩子。但兩年前，桑德伯格的丈夫在度假中意外驟逝，她的人生瞬時陷入不見底的痛苦，她不知道自己該如何走出如影隨形的傷痛，更不知道如何教養兩個稚齡的孩子有個快樂的人生。丈夫過世兩週後，桑德伯格正與朋友討論該由誰去參加學校所舉辦那場需要父親參加的親子活動。「但我想要大維去，我想要大維帶我們的兒子一起去。」桑德伯格哭著說。身邊的朋友擁著他說，「A選項已經不存在了，就從Ｂ選項開始吧！」人生無法盡如人意，我們每個人都活在某種形式的B選項中即使完美選項不復存在，我們仍可以擁抱Ｂ選項，勇敢重新開始不只是失去親愛的人，人生中各種逆境總是突然來到，工作受挫、失去情感。不管是自己，還是身邊所愛的親友，每個人在面對失去與逆境時，都需要一個減緩痛苦的方法，一種堅定的陪伴。這本書結合了桑德伯格獨到的洞見，以及他的好友、華頓商學院心理學教授亞當‧格蘭特對於如何從逆境復原的研究新發現。從發現丈夫大維‧高柏倒在健身房地板上那痛徹心扉的一刻後，桑德伯格攤開她破碎的心，打開她的筆記，分享那失去摯愛後席捲而來的悲傷與孤絕。書中書寫她如何走出喪夫的傷痛，重新發現幸福的歷程，也收錄了來自各領域許多人克服逆境的故事，包括面臨病痛、失業、性侵、暴力、天災與戰爭暴行等重大失落，看他們如何重寫人生，展現人性的堅強。韌性不是與生俱來，但韌性能像肌肉一樣鍛鍊你我都能幫助自己與朋友，家人與小孩培養韌性，獲得穿越逆境的力量韌性存於我們每個人內在深處，也得自外界的支持與陪伴。即使經歷再大的打擊，我們仍能透過尋找深層意義、學會真心感恩而復原、活出更好的人生。這本書提供實際可行的方法，幫助讀者發現自己內在未曾發掘的韌性，每個人都可以像鍛鍊肌肉般，強健自己的韌性。本書也分享了清楚的步驟，包含我們如何幫助別人度過難關，同時對自己慈悲，教出堅強的孩子，以及打造韌性十足的家庭、社群和組織，讓我們勇敢迎向每一天的挑戰。如果你正處逆境與傷痛中，這本書能帶領你找到穿越的路徑；如果你身邊有人正面對人生的苦痛，這本書會告訴你如何陪伴與有力支持的作法；如果你擔心孩子無法面對挫折失去，這本書告訴你培養韌性的方法；如果你相信復原力，在這本書中你將看到更多幫助人們走出逆境，在社會上發揮更大的力量。本書介出自天下出版《擁抱B選項》In 2015 Sheryl Sandberg’s husband, Dave Goldberg, died suddenly at the age of forty-eight. Sandberg and her two young children were devastated, and she was certain that their lives would never have real joy or meaning again.Just weeks later, Sandberg was talking with a friend about the first father-child activity without a father. They came up with a plan for someone to fill in. “But I want Dave,” she cried. Her friend put his arm around her and said, “Option A is not available. So let’s just kick the shit out of Option B.”Everyone experiences some form of Option B. We all deal with loss: jobs lost, loves lost, lives lost. The question is not whether these things will happen but how we face them when they do.Thoughtful, honest, revealing and warm, OPTION B weaves Sandberg’s experiences coping with adversity with new findings from Adam Grant and other social scientists. The book features stories of people who recovered from personal and professional hardship, including illness, injury, divorce, job loss, sexual assault and imprisonment. These people did more than recover―many of them became stronger.OPTION B offers compelling insights for dealing with hardships in our own lives and helping others in crisis. It turns out that post-traumatic growth is common―even after the most devastating experiences many people don’t just bounce back but actually bounce forward. And pre-traumatic growth is also possible: people can build resilience even if they have not experienced tragedy. Sandberg and Grant explore how we can raise strong children, create resilient communities and workplaces, and find meaning, love and joy in our lives.“Dave’s death changed me in very profound ways,” Sandberg writes. “I learned about the depths of sadness and the brutality of loss. But I also learned that when life sucks you under, you can kick against the bottom, break the surface and breathe again.”