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讓手足成為一生的朋友: 做個平和的父母, 教出快樂的小孩

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內容簡介 ★超人氣教養專家、心理學博士蘿拉‧馬克罕對於親子教養的終極遠見：不只要停止爭吵，更要孩子們成為終身扶持的摯友！★美國亞馬遜書店「情緒與心理健康」、「解決家庭衝突類」暢銷書小孩吵架後，叫他們道歉反而讓狀況更糟？要求孩子分享、輪流，竟會加劇手足衝突？懲罰會延緩同理心的發展，讓孩子更難帶？其實，孩子吵架，天經地義，因為他們在爭奪生存資源！手足是我們誕生後遇到的第一個朋友 敵人，而這份感情可能延續一生。提倡「平和教養觀」、「情緒對焦」的蘿拉博士主張，父母需先療癒自己、練出高EQ，跟每個孩子建立緊密的感情，重新思考「懲罰」、「規矩」、「獎勵」、「分享」的意義，才能在孩子爭吵時引導他們表達自己、尊重別人感受，進而協商出兩全其美的做法。如此，孩子們才會從冤仇人變好朋友，而且這份溝通智慧會跟著孩子一生，在職場、婚姻、友情中更加出色發光。本書特色•如何成為「平和的父母」？1.花心思調整自己的身心狀態，2.與每個孩子各別建立深厚的連結，3.提供指導而非控制孩子。•面對家庭戰場不害怕，一一拆解手足炸彈：當孩子說他恨弟弟妹妹／應該懲罰有攻擊性的孩子嗎？／為什麼須透過「衝突」來學習人際關係？／如何讚賞每個孩子，而不激起競爭？／當同理不奏效，該怎麼辦？／什麼時候父母該介入手足衝突？／為什麼不應強迫孩子道歉？／為什麼不應規定孩子分享？…•當你準備生第二胎，如何才能讓老大有安全感，歡迎弟妹的到來？該如何跟孩子談即將出生的寶寶？／當大孩子出現退化行為怎麼辦？／一開始便培養良好手足關係的九個祕訣／當寶寶進入學步期，十個維持家庭和諧的祕訣…以情緒對焦解決手足衝突的範例★重新思考「道歉」：「你弄傷妹妹了！跟妹妹道歉，立刻！」→（X）「我知道你對妹妹很不高興，但你這樣打她會讓她很受傷，因為她很愛你。你覺得可以做點什麼，讓妹妹覺得跟你在一起很安心？」→（O）★重新思考「輪流」：「你玩太久了，玩具拿來！輪到弟弟了！」→（X）「你跟弟弟約定好的時間到了，把玩具給弟弟，該輪到他囉。」→（O）★引導孩子說出心中感受，取代懲罰：「弟弟那麼小，怎麼可以打他！你也要嚐嚐被打的滋味嗎？」→（X）「你好生氣，用講的告訴弟弟，為什麼你這麼生氣。但是不可以打人。」→（O）蘿拉博士的提醒如果父母與每個小孩都感情親密，孩子們也會比較親近；如果親子間關係緊張、經常懲罰，小孩之間也較常攻擊爭吵。教給孩子情緒管理和解決衝突的技能，讓他們學會自行解決紛爭。幫助孩子培養緊密的終身手足情感，這對他們成年後維持健康友誼、工作關係以及建立家庭大有幫助。蘿拉博士再度從「情感連結」出發，幫助爸媽平穩自身情緒、耐心地去理解孩子的情感需求、協助孩子表達感受。書裡舉了許多例子引導爸媽平穩地介入孩子的衝突，譬如同理之後呼應孩子的渴望、或是設定限制。讓孩子們在爸媽的陪伴之下一起降溫，進入回想並且真正學會聆聽彼此，解決紛爭，增強溫暖的連結。本中文書介出自《讓手足成為一生的朋友: 做個平和的父母, 教出快樂的小孩》心靈工坊文化事業股份有限公司出版Popular parenting expert Dr. Laura Markham, author of PEACEFUL PARENTS, HAPPY SIBLINGS, has garnered a large and loyal readership around the world, thanks to her simple, insightful approach that values the emotional bond between parent and child. As any parent of more than one child knows, though, it’s challenging for even the most engaged parent to maintain harmony and a strong connection when competition, tempers, and irritation run high. In this highly anticipated guide, Dr. Markham presents simple yet powerful ways to cut through the squabbling and foster a loving, supportive bond between siblings, while giving each child the vital connection that he or she needs.PEACEFUL PARENT, HAPPY SIBLINGS includes hands-on, research-based advice on:Creating deep connections with each one of your children, so that each truly believes that you couldn’t possibly love anyone else more.Fostering a loving family culture that encourages laughter and minimizes fightingTeaching your children healthy emotional self-management and conflict resolution skills—so that they can work things out with each other, get their own needs met and respect the needs of othersHelping your kids forge a close lifelong sibling bond—as well as the relationship skills they will need for a life of healthy friendships, work relationships, and eventually their own family bonds."

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作者介紹 Dr. Laura Markham is the author of Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How To Stop Yelling and Start Connecting and Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings: How to Stop the Fighting and Raise Friends for Life. Dr. Markham earned her Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology at Columbia University in New York. Her clinical practice is entirely devoted to coaching parents, with clients from New York to Australia (via Skype). She monitors the pulse of parents' needs through her very active social network, including her own web site, AhaParenting.com. She speaks frequently with reporters for press as diverse as CNN and Parents Magazine and makes regular TV appearances. Dr. Markham lives in Park Slope, Brooklyn, with her family.

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